The Perfect Guy - Is he worth it?

"That won't happen to me,"

"I'm smarter than that, what she did was dumb."

That's what I said to everyone else about all the girls who got pregnant at such a young age. I was so sure that I was "smarter than that." You know what girls, you don't know what will happen until you are actually in that situation, and the only way to avoid making mistakes, is avoiding the situation all together.

When I was younger I was always focusing on boys: "My perfect guy will be taller than me, strong, nice to me, bring me flowers everyday..........." blah blah blah. And you know what? That is all nonsense, because the perfect guy comes from God and only God knows who you are going to be with for the rest of your life. I was so sure I was going to marry the one guy I was "in love" with for like, a billion years. I never gave anyone else a chance, I never really paid attention to what God was telling me, who God wanted me to be. I never gave God a chance to shape me into the person that he desired me to be. I never gave God a chance. I focused on what I wanted in life and not what He created me for.

I have a friend who prays for her husband every single time she prays. She prays that as God is helping her to grow, that her future husband is depending on God as well and growing closer with God as well. She hasn't even met him yet, but she prays for him. God knows our past, present and future. Let's leave all the major decisions in our lives up to Him instead of telling him what we want. Let's stop looking and start trusting in the Lord to provide us with all of our needs, including a husband, if it is in His will for us to have husbands.

Peer pressure does not end after you graduate from high school. It only gets worse. I know many girls who are being pressured by their boyfriend's to have sex. They tell me that they're in love, that "he's such a great guy, he's the best" and then they tell me that he's saying all his friends are "doing it" and he wants to "do it" too so that he's not left out and he knows what they're all talking about. He's pressuring her into having sex by playing the pity card. Making her feel sorry for him. Girls, MAN UP!!! Or, he went away for school, is being tempted, or has already done it with someone else, and to prove that you're good enough for him, you'll "do it" with him just to keep the relationship. Girls, WAKE UP!!!

Just imagine, working so hard on a 1000 piece puzzle. You spent hours and hours working on this puzzle because you wanted to put it on display. You tried your absolute hardest to keep all the pieces and not lose any. Then someone takes a piece, and throws it off the balcony without your consent. Now you can't display the puzzle because there is a piece missing. It is so shameful and embarrassing. What's the point in displaying a puzzle with a missing piece? How disgraceful that you tried so hard to keep everything together, and one slip up messes the entire thing. How angry would you be at that person that threw out the puzzle and ruined your masterpiece? Losing your virginity before marriage is ten times worse. God created us and takes care of us so well. We are all masterpieces created by God, but when we lose our virginity before marriage it is like we are taking a piece of God's masterpiece and throwing it in His face. How? How can we do that to our Saviour? Our Creator? Our one reason for living?

God has a plan for our lives. Look to Him and look ONLY to Him and what He tells us to do. Just because some boy you've been "in love" with for years and years says that he's leaving you for someone else, or just because some boy starts to ignore you and pay attention to other girls, or just because all of your friends have "done it" and you want to fit in, or you want to keep your friendship with that boy, or keep your popularity, or keep your "coolness." Let me just say, life on earth goes by like a blink of an eye compared to an eternity in Heaven. Being popular, feeling cool, feeling that "love" from that boy you gave your precious heart to, it's all irrelevant. It is all temporary. ETERNITY. Eternity in Heaven with God. How are we going to explain ourselves to our Creator? How are we going to tell Him that we destroyed his masterpiece because of some boy? Because of one moment of weakness? God is big. He is bigger than any temptation.

There is a reason why it says in the Bible NOT to yoke yourselves with unbelievers. Think about it. Your best friends that aren't Christian, that don't have a relationship with Jesus Christ. What are they doing? What are they telling you to do? What are they influencing you to do? As much as you deny going drinking or going to clubs with them, as much as you say no to sex, eventually either you will lose them as friends or you will lose yourself as a Christian. It is dangerous being yoked with non believers because in one way or another you will be influenced. As much as you say you aren't, you are. Ask yourself this........the people influencing you to do things against what God tells us, do they say they're Christian? If they truly are, then they wouldn't be anywhere near that stuff and they wouldn't be convincing you to do that stuff too.

Being a Christian requires sacrifice. You leave your old life behind you. Leave your non-Christian friends, leave your bad habits. God sacrificed His ONLY son for us. He died for us, can we not do this one thing for Him? Are we not willing to sacrifice for God? "But I'm trying to convert him, he's doing better, she's changing, I'm witnessing to them, I'm acting as an example." Fine, say all that, but once you find yourself sacrificing your Christian life to fit in for them, to wear all the cool clothes for them, to act like them, then is it really worth it? To lose your one eternal Love for your friends? To lose your one and only chance for true happiness just so you could fit in? Remember, ETERNITY verses one millisecond. Is it worth it?

If you are going to talk the talk, then walk the walk. Are you a Christian? Are you telling everyone you are a Christian? Then show them. Do you have sex with guys and think no one knows about it? God knows. Do you think you'll never get caught? You will. Even if you don't get caught, I hope that the guilt of disappointing God eats you alive. Because it ate me alive, and I paid for it. I'm not saying that I'm perfect in any way because I am far from perfect. I am far from being the ideal Christian. It just hurts me to even think that any of the girls I love are going through these things. Because I've been there. I know what it's like and I don't want ANYONE to EVER experience what I have been through.

Life is hard guys, but God is big. When you look to Him, you're life will be so much more fulfilling, so much more exciting, will have more meaning than anything else in the world. God makes you whole, those boys will give you holes.

Wait. Just wait until God has created you to become the woman He wants you to be. Wait. Wait until God has shaped your husband to be the man He wants him to be. Wait. Wait until God says it is time. Wait. Wait for the Lord's instructions. Just wait.